Middle of the Road

IMG_1938-1How do you do what you LOVE, while doing what you MUST?


                I’ve come to a fork in the road. I’ve been here before but this time is different. I finally have direction and I am very clear about my destination. Now all I have to do is figure out how to keep moving forward.  I’m finding it difficult to cram everything I NEED to do and everything I WANT to do in my 24 hour day, 7 day week. Yeah, Yeah I know I have the same 24 hours that Beyoncé has….whatever. She has several personal assistants, managers, drivers, chefs and a slew of Minions to keep her in FORMATION. I am practically a one woman show. It’s me and one Good, Good Girlfriend. So how do I keep the momentum going without having a mental breakdown and CRASHING? IMG_1931-1

           I need MapQuest… I need that Navigation Chick to chime in throughout my day and talk to me. “In 45 minutes post a picture on Instagram. In 3 feet, turn right, sit down at your desk and blog.”  Wouldn’t that be perfect? For me it would be ideal! BUT… since this is NOT about to happen any time soon, I am taking steps to figure it out on my own. To Thy Own Self be True….. Lisa Needs a written plan. I thrive off ‘TO DO LISTS’ and ‘SCHEDULES’. So I went out and purchased a HANDY DANDY NOTEBOOK and devised a Master Plan.

The First 5 Steps

Scheduling for Success and Planning for Progress

  1. Pray Daily, reconnect with Myself and God. Ask for His direction.
  2. Devise an hour by hour schedule that will help develop a routine that incorporates work obligations, writing/blogging, exercise and relaxation.
  3. Eliminate distractions and activities that are not productive.
  4. Eliminate the people and situations that are weighing me down.
  5. DO!!! Put steps 1 through 4 into ACTION! Open the doors that Lead to Success and Get Moving! IMG_1906-1 IMG_1923-1








To Thy Own Selfie Be True

It seems like just yesterday that the mere presence of a camera would have me running for the hills. I refused to pose for pictures, let alone take any of myself. And the thought of anyone posting pictures of me on any type of Social Media site would send me into a cussing frenzy. How dare you give the world proof of my state of being. I was Morbidly Obese, therefore I had to remain an invisible enigma. Standing in the shadows….out of SITE.

Oh but I had a DREAM….

I remember spending hours perusing the blogs of my favorite Blogger Baes. The Natural Fashionista, Marie Denee, Ms. Grown and Curvy and Chasity Garner were all Blogger Goddesses to me. I adored the images that adorned their pages. They seemed so confident, so sure of themselves. I wanted to be a part of their Plus Size Revolution. I wanted to Live and Thrive in their community. But in my eyes my size alone would keep them from rolling out the WELCOME mat on my behalf.  And despite the countless number of Supersized Bloggers that boldly flaunted their size confidence, I felt I wasn’t good enough. So I weighted. I weighted until I felt I was picture perfect. I weighted until I was confident in my SELFie.



Knock, Knock…. I’s HERE!

Blogger Life and the Social Media Scene are all about capturing the Perfect Picture. A Sensational Selfie is all a sista needs to be LIKED. The right pose at just the right angle can stop a person in mid scroll and have them tapping away to show you Insta Love. I for one have been swept away by the trappings and thrills that come along with having a picture LIKED by complete strangers. BUT do all those little thumbs and hearts come at a cost? Have we lost our sense of Self in the pursuit of the perfect Selfie?

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE a good selfie, I really do. I’ve been late for events standing in the mirror snapping picture after picture. Smile, no smile, head tilted, shoulders back and stomach held in….all in an effort to capture a pic worthy of posting. Which is all fine and dandy within reason, especially if it leads people to my blog. I will Unapologetically abide by the rules and pay dues in the community I want to live in. What I will not do is compromise the contents of my HOME or my character to FIT in. What is IN my heart is far more important to me than the number of hearts on my Instagram posts. A picture may be worth a thousand words but a strong sense of SELF is priceless.

If you are a part of my Facebook family you know that I have recently started a Selfie Challenge. Being the perfectionist that I am, I want to work on taking a better picture. I love the arts and photography; so I would love to be able to capture pictures and moments that are visually stimulating. BUT I also want to Influence my Rubees to capture the beauty that lies within. The beauty that will truly elevate you to a higher level of understanding and loving yourSELF. So YES I do SELFies. I AM a Self-Educated, Self-Employed woman who has the Self-Confidence needed to know her Self-Worth. I am nothing without a full sense of SELF. Self-Love, Self-Respect, Self-Confidence, Self-Awareness…

Until you find yourSELF and embrace the parts of your inner being that really matter, you will be lost and broken and there is no amount of LIKES that can fix that.



To thy own SELFie be TRUE, Rubees!